Imagine the scene…
He/she says “I’ll call you…” But they don’t.
They’ve done this before, a couple of times. And in desperation, you end up calling them. Sometimes just out of frustration – even though you know ‘the rules’ forbid it.
Then, probably more because you have extended the hand of friendship, they do get in touch and you see them a couple more times.
Then again: “I’ll call you…” But they don’t.
You had a great time. You really thought that they might be interested in your scintillating and witty repartee…
But then there’s radio silence.
It’s frustrating and confusing. You really did have a great time. You got on like a house on fire.
Either that, or somehow, you’re really missing the signals.
It’s frustrating and hurtful. You agonise that you might have said ‘the wrong thing’. But you’re struggling to think what that wrong thing might have been. Then you find all kinds of excuses for them, all of which avoid the reality.
The reality being... the old “he/she’s just not that into you” thingy… arghhh.
So what do you do? What CAN you do?
You can’t even have the satisfaction of blowing them out… because they’d have to call you in order for you to do that.
So you have to just ‘let it go’.